Addiction takes a tremendous toll on relationships The loss of trust and respect are devastating and the destruction that typically results from years of addiction may take a long time to repair.
If you're hoping to salvage a relationship damaged by addiction be prepared for a great deal of work Don't expect things to return to normal overnight and remember that watching a loved one self-destruct while under the influence of drugs or alcohol is terrifying and heartbreaking.
Most likely there is resentment on both sides with plenty of blame to go around Unfortunately an overload of grief fear and anger sometimes results in the end of the relationship.
There are no guarantees that a damaged relationship can be saved but if you're trying to patch up a broken relationship the following advice may help:
- Apologize for your misdeeds but always be genuine Accept full responsibility and acknowledge mistakes you made while in the throes of addiction and denial Apologizing doesn't automatically erase years of wrongdoing but it helps to rebuild faith and trust.
- Make amends to people you have wronged even if you don't participate in a Twelve-Step program Apologize if you lied cheated or behaved unethically If you resorted to theft to support your addiction make an honest effort to pay the money back even if it takes months or years.